Build your family's Family Compass
A calm, guided conversation for a couple planning a baby, expecting one, or already growing alongside a small child. You will see the family scripts you each grew up with, choose your own values, and turn them into everyday behaviour.
45–90 minutes · you can do it in parts · progress is saved on this device only.
Family Compass
In this family we choose warmth, honesty and respect.
“We argued, but we are still one team.”
Example
1 January 2026
An example of the result. This is a demonstration map, not a real family's data.
We are testing a shorter version
In version 2.0 each of you chooses separately, then you look at the overlaps together and confirm 3–5 family values. Instead of a mission, one practice for 14 days. The old version has not gone anywhere.
We talk a lot about what to buy for a child. Far less about what kind of family we want to be.
Every adult brings their own rules, habits and childhood experience into a new family. Some of it overlaps; some only becomes visible in hard moments. Family Compass helps you talk about it without grading each other, and find common ground before the decisions have to be made while you are exhausted.
What you will create
- 7–10 family values
- each value translated into observable, everyday behaviour
- a short family mission in your own words
- family phrases and agreements
- a Family Compass Map you can keep and come back to
How it works
- 01A safe start — Ground rules for a conversation with no right answers.
- 02Your stories — What each of you brings from home.
- 03Your values — Choosing 7–10 from a prepared set.
- 04Values into action — Concrete behaviour instead of abstract words.
- 05The conversation — Questions matched to your family's stage.
- 06Your Compass Map — A mission and a visual summary.
Who it is for
- couples planning a baby
- parents-to-be
- parents of a newborn or a small child
- partners who want to agree things before the hard moment rather than during it
When this is not the right thing
Family Compass is not designed for a crisis, for violence or for acute conflict, and it does not replace family therapy.
If you need help right now
- Emergency services, police, ambulance112102103
- Domestic violence and violence against children1547
- National domestic violence prevention line116 1230 800 500 335
All of these lines are free. Full list and opening hours.
Questions that come up
- Is this a test of whether we are “good parents”?
- No. There is no score, no ranking and no correct set of values.
- Do we have to do it all in one go?
- No. Progress is saved on your device, so you can pick the conversation up later.
- Do you store our answers?
- In the current prototype your answers and progress stay on your device, in your browser's storage, and are never sent to a server.
- Can I do it on my own?
- The tool is built primarily for two adults. Doing it alone is possible, but the questions and wording assume a conversation between two people.
- Is this therapy?
- No. It is a tool for reflection and conversation, not diagnosis, treatment, psychotherapy or crisis support.
Family Compass is a free prototype right now. We are testing whether the process is clear, whether couples finish the conversation and whether the result is useful. It may become paid later, but there is nothing to pay today.
What your home will be like — in your own words
No payment · no sign-up · you can stop and come back.